See February Blog for Part I and video of Dr. Brugh Joy’s interview on healing.
The key point that I want to emphasize with Dr. Brugh Joy’s work in this ten-minute video has to do with having the state of mind a person needs to engage their current situation that is challenging.
Typically, challenges in our life may actually trigger the child aspect of our psyche and then we regress into that earlier stage. It is at that point that we can only perceive the situation from that child’s perception and we engage the situation from the child’s ability, reduced understanding and limited resource. It is important to access a part of our mind that has a vast resource available to see a larger perspective of the challenge we are engaged in, such as a competent, confident adult.
The technique I learned from Brugh is the heart centered state of mind. Heart Centered state allows the mind to find stability, focus, the observer state and resource to address the challenge we face. The mind that is stable from a centered state does not relapse to earlier stages of development. The mind that is in a centered state stays present in the moment, not regressing to a child pattern and not fearful of a future outcome. When a mind is centered, the ego is able to grasp the profound mystery of what is occurring and can address the situation appropriately.
An example of this would be a woman is confronted with constant criticism and anger from her male boss. When her boss is critical of her work she resorts to feeling like a little girl, chastised, loss of her power, completely identified with the criticism and desperately wanting the approval of her boss. The woman is in her earlier development and is relating to her boss as her father and she is as a young girl. Any interaction she has with her boss comes from this girl-part within her. This woman’s challenge is to stabilize her ego so that she doesn’t resort to her child-mind, and that she remains in her adult state, centered, without anxiety and can engage her boss from this perspective. It doesn’t matter what she does to engage the situation, as long as it is with the clear intention and from the larger more resourceful part. Engaging her boss from this perspective means that she doesn’t fear his anger, criticism and doesn’t “need” his approval. Her communication is clear and he is able to hear it.
For more on the heart center process read these earlier blogs.