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The Fine Art of Seduction

Man must move out of a religious-passive and receptive condition into one of religious activity and creativeness.” – Nicolas Berdyayev

The above quote stimulates thought for me. There is something that people, who are destined to move in spiritual ways, get from being spiritually passive and receptive, otherwise they would not live their life in this way. This is a condition of waiting for something or someone to take them out of a life of suffering. A passive and receptive condition is one of complete dependency and dependency as an adult is a position of risk that is much greater than co-creating with a higher source.

One of the more challenging things of being a teacher or a counselor is to find compassion for those who choose not to find the stillness within but choose instead the suffering. Suffering is our attachment to an external event, situation or person that is no longer serving us, needs to be released so that a new wisdom and way of life can begin. As a practitioner of heart-centered awareness, I also know that this challenge of non-release of suffering is also an aspect of my own self.

I have witnessed over my 27 years of practice that many struggle in different ways with their attachment to suffering. The first seduction is that some people learn the fine art of detachment. What I mean by fine art is the fooling even of oneself. By detaching they believe they have found presence or stillness. Detachment is an ego defense based out of fear and therefore continues to be a conflict of the mind. Detachment is not having a continued relationship with the event, or person and through that relationship the being present with what is, becoming an open channel to the challenging situation.

Another avenue or illusion that some use to believe they have found stillness is distraction. For example, I have found that this will play out when people find a new romance or love interest. They use this romance to forget their suffering or conflict they have in life and allow the distraction to bring them happiness. They set aside their practice and become involved in the new relationship and on go the blinders to what is really transpiring in their life. Once again they have transferred their ability to be happy into another person. New romances are exciting and fun and they need to be, but one must not forget to remain in awareness and acceptance through compassion and understand this fine art of seduction through romantic love. Because when romantic love is used as a blinder to something else that is wanting to awaken inside of you, eventually the romance will take on the dark side of the dynamic and once again you are faced with your mind conflict.

A client of mine once asked, how is it that the Wall Street tycoons can steal, be dishonest, inflict suffering on so many and continue to live what appears to be a rich and easy life without facing prosecution? She went on to add, while I struggle with my dark sides within myself, find compassion for those around me and cannot make it financially.

It is difficult to understand life when it reflects back to us what looks like the rewarding of bad behaviors. You must find understanding through the hear center. Wall Street holds for us a reflection of our dark sides or mind conflicts. If we have not come into wisdom with greed then that is projected out into our world. A Wall Street businessman who has harm him/herself and others by his/her actions is serving a purpose for the collective at this time in our human evolution. This person has come in to fulfill a need for humanity, to carry the collective dark side, and this will not be an easy journey no matter if it looks easy to others.

Another dynamic I noticed with people is that they want to be taken care of, to have the responsibility of their life both external and internal to be resolved by another. They feel justified, angry, martyred if their partner doesn’t do enough to make them happy. For those without partners, they may live in despair and constant struggle wondering when God will rescue them from their lot in life. This dynamic serves them also in not doing what has been asked for a person who is meant to awaken to consciousness.
If it is your destiny to come into an awakened consciousness, then it may serve you more to strive for awareness, and acceptance through heart-centered meditation and living. The suffering will only last until you have let go, and surrendered then the mind is liberated and stillness and presence results.

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